Wednesday, September 07, 2005
Words of Wisdom...
Words of Wisdom...
The day hustled by and before I knew it, it was the end of the day. Had quite an eventful day...
Had to do a presentation today, which I didn't really feel I should although I did it in the end. You see, the presentation I did was for new staff. Yes, NEW staff! And I am quite NEW myself, having been here for only slightly more than 1 year, so I actually felt that I was NOT the best person to present but because MD was hesistant to do so, I wasn't left with much of a choice cuz there are only 2 officers in the dept!
In fact, before I presented, another person commented 'Thought you just atttended this talk for new staff a few months back, how come you are giving the talk so soon?!'
Anyway, reflecting on the morning's happenings, poodie sort of told me off this morning with regards to this MD matter, which I felt was good cuz it woke me up I guess....
Her WORDS of WISDOM: "You should all stop giving in to MD cuz she will never learn and the only way to make her learn is to be harsh to her! Otherwise, she will always be in her own protected little shell, resistant to change and always wallowing in self pity and low self-esteem! I was also like all of you last time, always felt bad about raising my voice at her, always worried that she would feel hurt, etc. But now, I have given up hope on her already, she will never change!"
Thanks, poodie! :) For your words of wisdom...Cuz after that, I asked MD (though I have asked her before, just that I accepted her 'no' as an answer then):
"I am not really sure how to link up the points under your part (& I was not joking cuz I really had problems linking up the points under her part cuz the points were all so disjointed and irrelevant to each other), can you roughly tell me how to do it?"
Feeling apologetic (as usual), MD tried to tell me how else I could present it although she sounded very unsure herself.
Then I told her "Why dun you present then?" to which she immediately responded "No no, I am not prepared, I have never presented before. "
"But you should learn what, it's not as if I always do presentations. If you present one time, next time you can say you have presented before already lor." I tried to joke with her. Think she was visibly embarrassed by this cuz she said next "Ermmm...ok ok, next time, I will present."
So a while after that, when my boss walked by and asked me, "So how, you are going to present, right?" I replied "Yup, but MD said she will present the next round in Nov, we will take turns. " He was a bit surprised and walked over to MD and said "Ya, you should learn to present, afterall, you are sort of trained in that area....." (cuz MD was a member of this club which taught presentaion skills or something of the sort)
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Life's Not Always Fair..
I was quite sad to learn that one of my dear friend was asked to hand in her resignation letter by the end of the month or be served a notice of dismissal by the company. The reason given was that the fit between her and the job was not right, that the job was not suitable for her! Her boss even assured her that it was not because she was underperforming but simply because the jobscope did not fit her. As if that would serve as any source of encouragement to my friend and to further rub salt onto her wound, her boss even had the cheek to tell her that "Sometimes, things happen in a certain way for a certain reason though you may not see it now." And above all, her boss did not even bother to help her search for another job with a better fit within the organisation. Talk about 'Job Fit'!!
She was and is till feeling really upset about everything cuz it's not as if she has been slacking in her work or that she is an extremely slow worker. On the contrary, she had been trying her best to improve since the first day her boss told her about this.
This really made me think about how unfair life can be sometimes..A person who works in the same manner as MD can get to stay in an organisation for 6 years, staying the way she is and never striving to improve, while my poor friend, although certainly a much faster worker and certainly someone who strives to continuously better herself (she has been trying to improve since the news hit her in a bid to change her bosses' minds), has to suffer such a fate..
Had to do a presentation today, which I didn't really feel I should although I did it in the end. You see, the presentation I did was for new staff. Yes, NEW staff! And I am quite NEW myself, having been here for only slightly more than 1 year, so I actually felt that I was NOT the best person to present but because MD was hesistant to do so, I wasn't left with much of a choice cuz there are only 2 officers in the dept!
In fact, before I presented, another person commented 'Thought you just atttended this talk for new staff a few months back, how come you are giving the talk so soon?!'
Anyway, reflecting on the morning's happenings, poodie sort of told me off this morning with regards to this MD matter, which I felt was good cuz it woke me up I guess....
Her WORDS of WISDOM: "You should all stop giving in to MD cuz she will never learn and the only way to make her learn is to be harsh to her! Otherwise, she will always be in her own protected little shell, resistant to change and always wallowing in self pity and low self-esteem! I was also like all of you last time, always felt bad about raising my voice at her, always worried that she would feel hurt, etc. But now, I have given up hope on her already, she will never change!"
Thanks, poodie! :) For your words of wisdom...Cuz after that, I asked MD (though I have asked her before, just that I accepted her 'no' as an answer then):
"I am not really sure how to link up the points under your part (& I was not joking cuz I really had problems linking up the points under her part cuz the points were all so disjointed and irrelevant to each other), can you roughly tell me how to do it?"
Feeling apologetic (as usual), MD tried to tell me how else I could present it although she sounded very unsure herself.
Then I told her "Why dun you present then?" to which she immediately responded "No no, I am not prepared, I have never presented before. "
"But you should learn what, it's not as if I always do presentations. If you present one time, next time you can say you have presented before already lor." I tried to joke with her. Think she was visibly embarrassed by this cuz she said next "Ermmm...ok ok, next time, I will present."
So a while after that, when my boss walked by and asked me, "So how, you are going to present, right?" I replied "Yup, but MD said she will present the next round in Nov, we will take turns. " He was a bit surprised and walked over to MD and said "Ya, you should learn to present, afterall, you are sort of trained in that area....." (cuz MD was a member of this club which taught presentaion skills or something of the sort)
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Life's Not Always Fair..
I was quite sad to learn that one of my dear friend was asked to hand in her resignation letter by the end of the month or be served a notice of dismissal by the company. The reason given was that the fit between her and the job was not right, that the job was not suitable for her! Her boss even assured her that it was not because she was underperforming but simply because the jobscope did not fit her. As if that would serve as any source of encouragement to my friend and to further rub salt onto her wound, her boss even had the cheek to tell her that "Sometimes, things happen in a certain way for a certain reason though you may not see it now." And above all, her boss did not even bother to help her search for another job with a better fit within the organisation. Talk about 'Job Fit'!!
She was and is till feeling really upset about everything cuz it's not as if she has been slacking in her work or that she is an extremely slow worker. On the contrary, she had been trying her best to improve since the first day her boss told her about this.
This really made me think about how unfair life can be sometimes..A person who works in the same manner as MD can get to stay in an organisation for 6 years, staying the way she is and never striving to improve, while my poor friend, although certainly a much faster worker and certainly someone who strives to continuously better herself (she has been trying to improve since the news hit her in a bid to change her bosses' minds), has to suffer such a fate..
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